Koh Phangan is a unique place where the world slows down a bit and reveals new perspectives to you. The local community is made up of open-minded people who come down from all corners of the world. However, sometimes the dose of freedom experienced is selfishly abused…
I have always dreamed of a house surrounded by nature, with a garden, a vegetable garden and a small orchard. After all, I’m a city dweller for whom more space was a priority over living in a block of apartments. Therefore, when going to Thailand, I was most concerned with finding a bungalow with a view of a palm tree and, perhaps, the sea.
If you have read previous posts, you know my pains of the first month. Anyway, after 2 weeks of sharing a volunteer room at Samma Karuna, which finished me off, I decided to look for something on my own.
It seemed that I had won the lottery
Back to the topic: I started looking for new accommodation, and along the way Gosia (hello!), thanks to whom I decided to come to Koh Phangan (she lives on the island for the second year), sent me an ad for a cottage that someone had posted on the island chat. The photos were taken with a shoe, I think, and it was completely unclear what everything looked like, but what caught my attention was the annotation that the cottage was on… a lake! So my eyes lit up like 5 gold and I tried to arrange an appointment as soon as possible. The next morning I showed up and… I was speechless. It was a row of semi-detached houses located above the lake, with a beautiful view of the area. Each semi-detached house is divided into two parts: at the ends are bedrooms with AC and a private bathroom, and between them is a common spacious kitchen.
During the conversation with the Polish girl who rented the bungalow, my jaw dropped even lower every now and then, because the monthly cost was 300 USD with bills, which is 40 USD more expensive than what I paid for NOTE – renting a bed in a shared room without AC… The condition: the girl was looking for someone to take her place for six months, as she is leaving for a vacation in Poland. In the other part of the house lived another Polish woman who was currently traveling somewhere in the area.
Of course, I applied for a lease and waited until the next day to confirm whether I would be the lucky one. When I got the news that I could move in tomorrow, I literally smiled happy for the next few days. After moving in, I felt like I had won the lottery and another dream on my long list was coming true. Unfortunately, until…
When paradise, began to turn into a nightmare
A week and a half after I moved out, my roommate, whom I had never met before, returned. Dominika was about 45 years old and was quite… peculiar. She seemed fine, but was not the type of personality I would want to spend my free time with. I didn’t have to wait long to experience what type of roommate she was….
Just two days after her return, late one evening she had a visitor. At this point, for the sake of the big picture, I’ll add that the house was rectangular, with a staircase on 1 side by Dominica’s part. So going to myself (separate entrances), I had to walk past her part, and the front of the cottage was glass. So I’m relaxing after a day at the series and hear that the evening of Dominica and her “guest” is so successful that her “excitement” could be heard within a kilometer radius. Okay, well, I put on my headphones and continued the series at maximum volume, but it didn’t do anything. So I turned on the music from JBL to a level that relieved me of the… Experience.
The next day after my morning shift, I met my roommate, who, in a rather strange way, she started the topic of yesterday, but acted as if she was mega proud of herself, not necessarily embarrassed. When asked if I had heard them, I confirmed and the finale of the conversation was that I did not hold a grudge, only asked her to try to remember in such situations that I am next door, we do not know each other and on average I want to hear how good she is in bed. I added that it was my rant for the 3rd week on the island, before leaving I had a lot of stress, problems, I slept very badly the last 2 weeks, and I had shifts at Samma Karuna at 6:30 a.m. I was mentally and physically exhausted, so I suggested that she “allow herself more” when I’m not there, because I get up early in the morning, I’m tired and need peace and quiet. I thought the topic was closed, however, it quickly became clear how wrong I was.
Two days later there was an every Tuesday beach party that lasts until 1-2 am. I had a 6:30 a.m. shift, so I planned to drop in just to meet some friends. Setting off from the lodge, it turned out that Dominica was also going, and since she didn’t have a scooter, I offered to give her a ride. During the ride we chatted for a while, I mentioned about tomorrow’s morning shift and that I was only going for a while.
As planned, I got home before 12 and quickly fell asleep. Unfortunately, at 4 a.m., I was awakened by a terrible noise of the pots in the kitchen. At first I ignored it, but it had been going on for a good 10 minutes, in addition, there were two people talking loudly, laughing. I understand that drunk you can be loud for a while, something can drop you, etc. However, this went on for too long, and they clearly didn’t give a damn about the other person sleeping next door, who they knew was working in the morning. I leaned into the kitchen and culturally but concretely communicated that “hey, I’m sleeping here” – Dominica didn’t even speak up, only kept smiling, only her companion was unaware that someone was and immediately apologized to me. Despite my remarks, the whole thing continued for another 5 minutes, but I only heard Dominika, the guy apparently culturally returned to her room and respected that I was asleep.
I was terribly tired and angry all day, I am conciliatory and understanding, however, she simply shows me total disrespect. She ignored the fact about my shift, which she drunkenly might have forgotten, but to my attention in the middle of the night she showed no reflection.
What is the Universe trying to communicate to me?
From then on, things only took a turn for the worse, because the next day, when I started a conversation on the subject, she acted like a frisky child who doesn’t get it that she made a mistake. She had the nerve to counterattack with the text “I was hungry, what was I supposed to do, I can’t even cook something for myself anymore?”. I was slowly getting fed up with everything, it took away all the joy of living in this paradise by the lake, but I focused on the fact that in there I only spend the night, and most of the day outside the house. But… Dominica still managed to surprise me….
The next day I went out in the evening to see friends and came back around 1 a.m. I walked onto the terrace and walking towards my part turns out that on the couch set up between us – Dominica and her friend are having sex. My annoyance was already at such a level that I walked past them without saying a word, and at this moment (he is lying on it and is in it), Dominica smiles awkwardly and throws an “oh sorry”, then seeing my reaction she adds “Patrick, you’re the one who is bothered by all this”. Pathetic.
The next day I stopped speaking to her, because I was so exhausted by the whole situation that I had had enough. A friend drove in the morning to Wai Nam – a hidden beach with a chill party that lasts all day. figured it was the only thing that could de-stress me now, so I gathered myself and set off on the hour-long drive to the place from where the boats to the beach run every 30 minutes. I arrived, sit down on the beach with my ticket, and try to control my bad thoughts, annoyance and stress. I look around and it turns out that the mentioned couple is also waiting for a boat. Yes, of course, the Universe thought, why not. Not only were they going to the same place, but in the same boat. My idea of relaxation disappeared because all the time Dominica was in sight.
For what sins…
Karma - you know what to do
After that, I decided that it was a waste of my energy. I found new accommodation and moved out the same day. Bringing out the last of my belongings, I decided that I would not leave here without ending this hopeless chapter. So I approached Dominikaat whose house a friend was just having coffee, apologized to him for what I would say in front of him, and turned to my already former roommate – I wish you meet people as selfish as you on your way. I turned on my heel and left her with these words and her shocked expression.
It may sound silly, but such an ending allowed me to let off steam. Different things can happen, I myself often committed gaffes as a roommate, but this was a concrete exaggeration and disrespect for another person. Karma – act! Karma – count on you
