{"id":1643,"date":"2023-11-20T06:08:37","date_gmt":"2023-11-20T05:08:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/onahammock.com\/blog\/articles\/title-5-things-i-learned-during-my-stay-in-thailand-self-development\/"},"modified":"2023-11-23T09:57:32","modified_gmt":"2023-11-23T08:57:32","slug":"thailand-what-i-learned","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/onahammock.com\/en\/blog\/articles\/thailand-what-i-learned\/","title":{"rendered":"5 things I learned during my stay in Thailand | self-development"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"bsf_rt_marker\"><\/div>\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"1643\" class=\"elementor elementor-1643 elementor-1553\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-064f9b4 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"064f9b4\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-1eba2d1\" data-id=\"1eba2d1\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4b1eb11 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"4b1eb11\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><b>Since I abandoned the reality that 1\/3 of my life was occupied by work, I have finally found the time and space to think. I&#8217;ve been given the chance to get to know myself better and answer the questions that my daily life has blocked so far.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>I don&#8217;t want to write about the privilege of being in Thailand as a condition to &#8220;change something in my life.&#8221; But in my case, it was a slowing signpost that gave me perspective for reflection.<\/p>\n<ol class=\"ol1\">\n<li class=\"li1\"><a href=\"#temat1\">Observing myself, analyzing my mood and emotions.<\/a><\/li>\n<li class=\"li1\"><a href=\"#temat2\">Self-acceptance, building self-confidence.<\/a><\/li>\n<li class=\"li1\"><a href=\"#temat3\">The art of saying NO.<\/a><\/li>\n<li class=\"li1\"><a href=\"#temat4\">Getting out of my comfort zone, controlled growth.<\/a><\/li>\n<li class=\"li1\"><a href=\"#temat5\">Loneliness, how I learn to live alone.<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\t\t\t\t<style id=\"core-4b1eb11-core-block-supports-inline-css\"><\/style>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-78b32dc elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"78b32dc\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-69e28ca\" data-id=\"69e28ca\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b11fd0d elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"b11fd0d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" id=\"temat1\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h2>1. Observing oneself, analyzing mood<br>and emotions &#8211; self-awareness<\/h2>\n<p class=\"p2\">I am an <b>introvert<\/b>, with a part of an extrovert. Therefore, in a world of numerous interactions, it&#8217;s a little harder for me to find myself, especially now on a perpetual journey. From the very beginning, when I unpacked at the center in <b>Samma Karuna<\/b>, I felt that I <b>couldn&#8217;t keep up with myself<\/b> and what was going on around me. The ideal plan to join a <b>volunteer<\/b> service to <b>meet new people<\/b> worked out, but I didn&#8217;t foresee the side <b>threads<\/b> that might <b>hinder<\/b>&nbsp;<b>my new start.<\/b> The shockwave of the local <b>climate<\/b> was lethal, and the fact that I was sleeping in a room above a restaurant generating extra heat was only linked to&nbsp;<b>my deteriorating<\/b>&nbsp;<b>mood<\/b>. The first two weeks I literally slept 4-5h each, as it was hard to fall asleep in this temperature and every now and then you would wake up. In addition, I had 6:30am shifts, so overall the quality of my sleep was bland, the energy and mood was once sufficient and at other times massacre.<\/p>\n<p class=\"p2\">When I located how I was negatively affected by the conditions of my first accommodation, I decided that <b>I had to act<\/b>. I started looking for a new place, and luckily Gosia found me an ad for a beautiful place on the lake. The next day I was already transferred, however, this was not the only problem. The <b>number of people<\/b> you <b>meet<\/b> and interact with on a daily basis &#8211; especially as a volunteer who checks the attendance list for classes &#8211; <b>was overwhelming<\/b>. I decided I needed to <b>withdraw myself<\/b> from the activities and life around the center, to <b>be alone for a while<\/b> to recharge my batteries.<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">&#8220;It&#8217;s okay to fade away,<br>until you feel yourself again.&#8221;<br><br><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p class=\"p2\">In a crowd of people, especially those beautiful souls &#8211; it&#8217;s <b>easy to forget yourself<\/b>. Because, after all, you want to enjoy everything the island has to offer, spend time in the company of mega-interesting, newly met people. But you have to <b>slow down<\/b>, step aside to understand that <b>everything at its own pace.<\/b><\/p>\n<p class=\"p2\">I&#8217;ve written about this before, that&nbsp;I <a href=\"https:\/\/onahammock.com\/en\/blog\/articles\/in-the-corner-of-the-eye\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">assess my mood<\/a> every morning and evening. And it started with <strong>tracking<\/strong> my <strong>achievements<\/strong> in the areas I wanted to develop. I always want everything already and now, and this is always doomed to failure. That&#8217;s why it&#8217;s not necessarily &#8220;do it every day,&#8221; it&#8217;s enough to <b>monitor how often<\/b> something was accomplished.<\/p><p><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: var(--fontWeight);\">With this method<\/span> <b style=\"font-size: inherit; text-align: inherit; background-color: var(--palettecolor4); color: var(--color); font-family: var(--fontFamily); font-style: var(--fontStyle, inherit); letter-spacing: var(--letterSpacing); text-transform: var(--textTransform);\">of checking boxes<\/b>, <span style=\"font-size: inherit; text-align: inherit; background-color: var(--palettecolor4); color: var(--color); font-family: var(--fontFamily); font-style: var(--fontStyle, inherit); font-weight: var(--fontWeight); letter-spacing: var(--letterSpacing); text-transform: var(--textTransform);\">I get a lot<\/span> <b style=\"font-size: inherit; text-align: inherit; background-color: var(--palettecolor4); color: var(--color); font-family: var(--fontFamily); font-style: var(--fontStyle, inherit); letter-spacing: var(--letterSpacing); text-transform: var(--textTransform);\">of satisfaction,<\/b><span style=\"font-size: inherit; text-align: inherit; background-color: var(--palettecolor4); color: var(--color); font-family: var(--fontFamily); font-style: var(--fontStyle, inherit); font-weight: var(--fontWeight); letter-spacing: var(--letterSpacing); text-transform: var(--textTransform);\">because each box means something to me. I read more books, I quit going green, I cut down on unhealthy food, I keep track of the frequency of my workouts. I vary with sleeping hours, it&#8217;s not perfect, but I can see my progress clearly and <\/span><b style=\"font-size: inherit; text-align: inherit; background-color: var(--palettecolor4); color: var(--color); font-family: var(--fontFamily); font-style: var(--fontStyle, inherit); letter-spacing: var(--letterSpacing); text-transform: var(--textTransform);\">don&#8217;t put too much pressure on myself.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><\/p>\t\t\t\t<style id=\"core-b11fd0d-core-block-supports-inline-css\"><\/style>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-8406c33 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"8406c33\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-5b09ac4\" data-id=\"5b09ac4\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f264fe5 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"f264fe5\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"781\" src=\"https:\/\/onahammock.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/Screenshot-2023-11-20-at-09.41.47-1024x781.png\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-1556\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/onahammock.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/Screenshot-2023-11-20-at-09.41.47-1024x781.png 1024w, https:\/\/onahammock.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/Screenshot-2023-11-20-at-09.41.47-300x229.png 300w, https:\/\/onahammock.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/Screenshot-2023-11-20-at-09.41.47-768x586.png 768w, https:\/\/onahammock.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/Screenshot-2023-11-20-at-09.41.47-1536x1172.png 1536w, https:\/\/onahammock.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/Screenshot-2023-11-20-at-09.41.47.png 1722w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<style id=\"core-f264fe5-core-block-supports-inline-css\"><\/style>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-9462ccd elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"9462ccd\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-b936a70\" data-id=\"b936a70\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4f43ff6 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"4f43ff6\" data-element_type=\"widget\" id=\"temat2\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h2>2 Self-acceptance, building self-confidence.<\/h2>\n<p class=\"p1\">My <strong>emotionality<\/strong> is a <strong>blessing<\/strong> and a <strong>curse<\/strong>. I understand others, but at the same time I analyze everything too much, eternal overthinking. I always perceived myself as &#8220;<strong>weird<\/strong>&#8221; because I didn&#8217;t fit into any circle, there was always something blocking me. It took me 30 years to grasp that my &#8220;otherness&#8221; is something <strong>I should be proud of<\/strong>, something that should not limit me, but <strong>motivate<\/strong> me, drive me. In this, <a href=\"https:\/\/webep1.com\/c\/400\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">four books helped me<\/a>, for the recommendation of which, <strong>Maciek, Patrick, Luke &#8211; thank you.<\/strong> \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Power-Now-Eckhart-Tolle\/dp\/B0095GVWMA\/ref=sr_1_4?crid=4MUCQCTMQULU&amp;keywords=power+of+now&amp;qid=1700726902&amp;sprefix=power+of+now%252Caps%252C344&amp;sr=8-4&amp;_encoding=UTF8&amp;tag=10bff3-20&amp;linkCode=ur2&amp;linkId=7f57f30eabc71ad0156cbf6022146c0a&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\"><strong>The power of now<\/strong><\/a> &#8211; about how we focus on the past and look ahead to the future. And we forget that the most important thing is to be happy here and now.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Eat-That-Frog-Great-Procrastinating-ebook\/dp\/B09YH72KMK\/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&amp;qid=1700727489&amp;sr=8-1&amp;_encoding=UTF8&amp;tag=10bff3-20&amp;linkCode=ur2&amp;linkId=55f245571bee138ee9d6b93d32635f7d&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\"><strong>Eat that frog<\/strong><\/a> &#8211; about procrastination. How to change bad habits and work on efficiency, fight laziness. <\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Six-Pillars-Self-Esteem-Nathaniel-Branden-ebook\/dp\/B007JK9BAY\/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&amp;qid=1700727277&amp;sr=8-1&amp;_encoding=UTF8&amp;tag=10bff3-20&amp;linkCode=ur2&amp;linkId=8f41ac77946a71530634fb5f856724be&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\"><strong>6 pillars of self-esteem<\/strong><\/a> &#8211; in six categories the author presents the components of building self-esteem. By environment, family, external and internal factors.<\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><a href=\"https:\/\/webep1.com\/go\/42d10d44c4\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\"><strong>Your Erroneous Zones<\/strong><\/a> &#8211; how to silence the voices around us that dictate about our lives. And how to take responsibility for ourselves.<\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\">No matter what stage of life you are in today, these four items allow us to <strong>slow down<\/strong> and <strong>devide<\/strong> the <strong>components<\/strong> <strong>of our<\/strong> <strong>personality<\/strong> and <strong>effectiveness<\/strong>. And when you understand yourself, what you are and perhaps why &#8211; <strong>you gain the tools<\/strong> to work on what you want to change.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t<style id=\"core-4f43ff6-core-block-supports-inline-css\"><\/style>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-cf65b99 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"cf65b99\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-25 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-e4d47c8\" data-id=\"e4d47c8\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-55be422 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" 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height=\"445\" src=\"https:\/\/onahammock.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/412tEZrBsjL._SY445_SX342_-1.jpg\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-1579\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/onahammock.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/412tEZrBsjL._SY445_SX342_-1.jpg 292w, https:\/\/onahammock.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/412tEZrBsjL._SY445_SX342_-1-197x300.jpg 197w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 292px) 100vw, 292px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<style id=\"core-745984a-core-block-supports-inline-css\"><\/style>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-a0bad7a elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"a0bad7a\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-618573c\" data-id=\"618573c\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-bfc4aee elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"bfc4aee\" data-element_type=\"widget\" id=\"temat3\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h2>3. The beauty of saying NO.<\/h2>\n<p class=\"p1\"><strong>An introvert<\/strong> will often <strong>say whatever it takes<\/strong> just to get someone to <strong>leave him alone.<\/strong> And combined with low self-esteem, you have a recipe for <strong>people pleasing.<\/strong> You put the needs of others above your own.<\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\">I finally recognized this and <strong>understood<\/strong> that <strong>I am the most important<\/strong>, but not narcissistic way, but <strong>healthy building of self-awareness and self-respect.<\/strong> I don&#8217;t allow myself to mute <strong>my inner NO<\/strong> because someone urges me to, because it will be cool, nice and spontaneous. Give yourself a moment to think and then decide.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t<style id=\"core-bfc4aee-core-block-supports-inline-css\"><\/style>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-655a74e elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"655a74e\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-f8ba09d\" data-id=\"f8ba09d\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9cd002e elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"9cd002e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" id=\"temat4\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h2>4. Getting out of the comfort zone, controlled development.<\/h2>\n<p class=\"p2\">I realized that <strong>nothing is ever constant<\/strong>. There are pleasant things and less pleasant things in life, and we have no control over most of them. Therefore, I believe that <strong>changes in life are needed<\/strong> and <strong>are<\/strong> most likely a realistic <strong>goal for every human being.<\/strong> As rational beings, we have the privilege of constantly evolving, and it would be a sin to fight it.<\/p>\n<p class=\"p2\">Do you know <strong>what an introvert does?<\/strong> He looks for his <strong>extrovert<\/strong>. <strong>Yin Yang<\/strong> type solution. If there wasn&#8217;t <strong>Agatha in my childhood<\/strong> (regards!), I would be a completely gray mouse today. And <strong>every<\/strong> <strong>friendship<\/strong> that followed, was always by the side of these <strong>volcanoes of energy<\/strong>, with whom I felt safe &#8211; the other can talk, entertain, do violets and twine, and when I want, I&#8217;ll join in (maybe to talk).<\/p>\n<p class=\"p2\">Since <strong>everything comes<\/strong> to me <strong>with difficulty<\/strong>, I knew that I would either do something about it or <strong>stand still.<\/strong> That&#8217;s why I&#8217;ve been <strong>pushing myself lightly<\/strong> since I was a kid, to <strong>get out<\/strong> of the <strong>cozy nest on my own.<\/strong> By doing so, I feel that I&#8217;ve been fighting for myself all my life, <strong>stepping out of my comfort zone<\/strong>, changing jobs, circle of friends, activities, places. During a <strong>yoga class<\/strong> on <strong>Koh Phangan<\/strong>, a <strong>beautiful statement<\/strong> that every teacher repeats sank into my mind. <strong>&#8220;Get out of your comfort zone&#8221;<\/strong> meaning do the exercises to the extent that you feel a slight pain, but it is not a pain that is meant to discourage you and dominate you during the exercise. And then <strong>&#8220;respect yourself&#8221;<\/strong> and &#8220;<strong>thank yourself that you made time for the class.&#8221;<\/strong> It gives you a lot to think about, not to come &#8220;because I have to&#8221;, but &#8220;<strong>I found time to develop over my body and mind&#8221;<\/strong>. Beautiful.<\/p>\n<p>To quote John Maxwell on <strong>why people change:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>When they are <strong>hurt enough<\/strong> to <strong>have to<\/strong> change.<\/li>\n<li>When they <strong>see enough<\/strong> to feel <strong>inspired<\/strong> to change.<\/li>\n<li>When they <strong>learn enough<\/strong> to understand that they <strong>want to<\/strong> change.<\/li>\n<li>When they <strong>receive enough<\/strong> to <strong>be able to<\/strong> change.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\t\t\t\t<style id=\"core-9cd002e-core-block-supports-inline-css\"><\/style>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-d2d215d elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"d2d215d\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-1cb608a\" data-id=\"1cb608a\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-167a626 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"167a626\" data-element_type=\"widget\" id=\"temat5\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h2>5. loneliness as I learn to live independently.<\/h2>\n<p class=\"p1\">I think <strong>living alone<\/strong>, is a process that will be <strong>eternal, undone.<\/strong> Which is <strong>not<\/strong> at all about <strong>isolating<\/strong> yourself from others or living completely alone.<\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><strong>Loneliness<\/strong>, I have read that it <strong>is one of the worst mortal factors<\/strong> in the modern world. I have been alone for 12 years and seriously, it ruins a person. There are friends, family, but there is a <strong>lack of that one person<\/strong> with whom <strong>the exchange of glances will stop everything around for a while.<\/strong><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">&#8220;Be with someone who is mature enough to say &#8216;let&#8217;s fix it.&#8217;&nbsp;<br><span style=\"font-size: inherit; background-color: var(--palettecolor4); color: var(--color); font-family: var(--fontFamily); font-style: var(--fontStyle, inherit); font-weight: var(--fontWeight); letter-spacing: var(--letterSpacing); text-transform: var(--textTransform);\">instead of acting childish and ignoring you.&#8221;<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p class=\"p1\">However, <strong>looking for love<\/strong>, only <strong>makes things worse,<\/strong> I have to learn an independent path through life, where one day, maybe someone will show up and join me.<\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><strong>I&#8217;m trying<\/strong> to <strong>plan<\/strong> more what to do today, next week, next month. I am looking for perspectives to release my thoughts, such as writing these write-ups, with great fun and satisfaction. I work on myself because<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: center;\">&#8220;if you don&#8217;t love yourself, <br>how the hell can you love somebody else?!\u201d.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\t\t\t\t<style id=\"core-167a626-core-block-supports-inline-css\"><\/style>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Since I abandoned the reality that 1\/3 of my life was occupied by work, I have finally found the time and space to think. I&#8217;ve been given the chance to get to know myself better and answer the questions that my daily life has blocked so far. I don&#8217;t want to write about the privilege [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":1593,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6,44,45],"tags":[87,54,90,91,33,89,39,86,88,40],"class_list":["post-1643","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-articles","category-guide","category-wpisy","tag-building-self-esteem","tag-development","tag-introvert","tag-introvertism","tag-koh-phangan-en-2","tag-self-acceptance","tag-self-awareness","tag-self-development","tag-self-respect","tag-thailand"],"blocksy_meta":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/onahammock.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1643","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/onahammock.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/onahammock.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/onahammock.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/onahammock.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1643"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/onahammock.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1643\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/onahammock.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1593"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/onahammock.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1643"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/onahammock.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1643"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/onahammock.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1643"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}